We are dedicated professionals committed to providing quality mental health and substance abuse services. It is our overall goal to enhance the quality of life for individuals and families. Our belief is that all people are valuable and unique and should be treated with dignity and respect. While recognizing the potential for change, and assessment of the clients emotional, physical, spiritual, and life experience is provided in a caring environment. The growth of the individual is promoted through a course of treatment developed and executed in a timely and cost effective manner
Who are We
At Counseling Associates, our role as therapists is to provide support and practical feedback to help clients address current life challenges and long-standing issues. Our role as therapists is to provide support and practical feedback to help clients address current life challenges and long-standing issues.
We promote strengthening the family unit by helping each family member understand not only themselves and their behaviors, but also the behaviors of others in the family. With that self knowledge, individuals propel themselves forward into growth.
Commitment and Quality With our support, we help clients take responsibility for their own life and their own happiness. We help individuals find resolution to a wide range of personal concerns and psychological issues by encouraging clients to learn about themselves and listen to their own inner voice
The Golden Rule Doesn’t Work in Marriage
I have always been taught the golden rule since I could understand words and concepts. For those of you who aren’t quite sure what I am talking about the Golden Rule is this: Treat others the way you would want them to treat you. This is a great moral compass to have because it teaches us empathy. The world could use more empathy. However, this doesn’t seem to work in marriages. I have heard so many times one person trying to get their partner to understand what they need and how they feel by giving examples, such as: “… say you were trying to tell me about your day and I just looked at the TV and didn’t pay close attention, wouldn’t that make you angry?” ?” The other person’s response is usually something like “I can still listen to you when I have the TV on.” This is not what the person wanted to hear. They want their spouse to say something like, “I understand why you’re angry, I would hate it if you did that to me, so I won’t do
that to you anymore.” Ahhhh… the angels sing and life and love go back to being perfect…. Oh, wait, that isn’t how marriage goes usually! The fact is we can’t expect our partners to WANT or NEED the same things we do nor feel the same way when we are hurt. We have to communicate what we need in another way.
Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called The Five Love Languages to help couples understand each other’s needs so we can stop trying to use the Golden Rule. The Five Love Languages are; Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Words of Affirmation, Receiving Gifts and Quality Time. Quite often, we try to speak our language of love to the other person (using the Golden Rule). If they don’t speak the same language, they may not feel loved by the way we are trying to show them love. All the languages are good, but one of them will make you feel more loved than the others. When we learn what our partners love language is, then we need choose to meet their need (speak their language) so they will feel loved by us. To find out what you and your spouses love languages are, go to The 5 lovelanguages -- Christianne Judy, LCSW.
CASI is pleased to announce a group workshop for kids with Aspergers Syndrome, Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD-NOS), and high-functioning Autism. Its slated for Wednesday evenings beginning in September. Call the office at 618.622.2579 for details and registration and one of our administrative specialists will be happy to help.